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I went to an open air concert last evening with my family and it was both wonderful and sad. Excellent performances, happy, if old, crowd, appreciation of people doing their craft well. I danced a lot, and that kind of physical effort generally makes me feel better about the world! The sadness came because it really feels like we all (in the US) live these lives of struggle with tiny interspersed moments of joy. I need to find a way to get more joy both in my life AND in the world. 

Jun 23, 22 10:30 am  · 
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Wood Guy

Do you have other opportunities for dance? What else brings you joy?

Jun 23, 22 10:39 am  · 
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proto

Make space in your life to do those things. They are foundational. Allowing yourself a space to reset isn’t selfish; it is essential to your mental health. Your happiness then attaches to your family’s happiness. Keep dancing, Donna.

Jun 23, 22 11:03 am  · 
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Almosthip

I also went to a concert last night. It was pretty Awesome, my second concert since covid times. It was indoors and loud, I also danced and it fed my soul. I love live music, and Canadian music is the best. "The Glorious Sons" Im sorry your struggling with not having enough joy. Music really brings me joy.

Jun 23, 22 11:07 am  · 
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b3tadine[sutures]

What would bring me joy? Watching Rogan and Jordan Peterson, and their ilk, die in a fiery plane crash.

Jun 23, 22 12:11 pm  · 
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citizen

So to recap... means toward mental health: 

1) music

2) dancing

3) wishing miserable deaths on others

Jun 23, 22 3:35 pm  · 
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b3tadine[sutures]

Does it really have to be number three? I don't dance.

Jun 23, 22 3:52 pm  · 
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citizen

I don't want to be on the list myself, so rank 'em any way that suits!

Jun 23, 22 3:54 pm  · 
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citizen

And to your list, b3ta, I'd add anyone at the gym who 'rests' on equipment between sets without getting up, while texting on their phone.

Jun 23, 22 4:03 pm  · 
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b3tadine[sutures]

That hurts. How about we agree to water board jag offs making videos at the gym, and then get pissed because you walked through their shot?

Jun 23, 22 4:31 pm  · 
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citizen

Okay, I'll dial it back, but only so far as them escaping death if they eat and swallow their phone. Fair's fair.

Jun 23, 22 4:40 pm  · 
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b3tadine[sutures]

I think I know who you areeeee....przemula.

Jun 23, 22 6:23 pm  · 
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b3tadine[sutures]

I swear, if I had a nickel for every time I was on meds, I'd have.....about a nickel.

Jun 23, 22 6:29 pm  · 
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sameolddoctor

1. Music

2. Biking

3. Coffee

I take joy in the small stuff. 

But yes, life is hard, glad you had a great time Donna.

Jun 23, 22 9:33 pm  · 
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Non Sequitur

I've got 3 concerts and one comedy show lined up this summer... and music on vinyl to keep me busy in between. And beer. lots of beer because summer is patio time.

Jun 23, 22 9:39 pm  · 
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,,,,

1. Our daughter laughing. 2. My girlfriend singing quietly to herself. (Means she is really, really happy. 3. Watching TV with my cat.
4.Visiting with my family. 5. Talking with a good friend. 6. Summertime.
7. Comfort food - ice cream sandwiches. 8. Creatinous moronic movies ( Plan 9 from Outer Space, Dinosaurs, Sharknado. 9. Binge watching shows from my childhood. 10. Waking up and realizing I am off and going back to sleep. 11. Reveling in the knowledge that there is more to life than art and
architecture.

Jun 23, 22 11:01 pm  · 
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sameolddoctor

The last point is most important to long-time survival in this biz.

Jun 23, 22 11:12 pm  · 
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SneakyPete

z1111, my daughter asked me to pick her up and dance with her this morning, then laid down her head on my shoulder and hugged me as I did so. It was as near to heaven as I could have ever imagined on this planet.

Jun 24, 22 1:35 pm  · 
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,,,,

SP, Yes, it is beyond words. However, I feel I need all 11 of them today.

Jun 24, 22 7:16 pm  · 
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re: the comment above about meds: I'm just going to once again remind everyone that meds are nothing to be ashamed of! I was on Prozac for many years, and currently I'm off it but my perimenopause symptoms are so crippling that I'm considering trying all kinds of new meds for it. There's nothing to be ashamed of seeking chemical treatment for physical ailments, be they pain or menopause or mental mis-firings. 

Jun 24, 22 1:15 pm  · 
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SneakyPete

Amen, Donna. The stigma is why I have continued to resist them for years to the detriment (probably) of me and others around me.

Jun 24, 22 1:36 pm  · 
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,,,,

Donna there is an anti anxiety med that one of my relatives takes with great success.

Jun 24, 22 7:19 pm  · 
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bowling_ball

Bringing this one back to the front page. 

Sep 7, 22 12:04 am  · 
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I'm stressed out.  

Before moving here I did a lot of medium sized MOB work.  I was good at it but disliked working on these projects because of the clients. 

 Now the firm I'm with wants me to do more MOB work and become a certified thought the American College of Healthcare Architects (ACHA). 

Uhg.   

Sep 7, 22 1:03 pm  · 
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DickCheney

Chad, we have squabbled before under a different alias but feel for you. Always frustrating someone else is trying to "guide" you into a specialization. H.O.L.D. F.A.S.T. Partner.

Sep 7, 22 2:26 pm  · 
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I'm less stressed about being guided and more stressed about the firm going after more medical projects. This could lead to a very difficult decision for everyone. 

On a side note I don't care if we've squabbled before. The only thing that matters to me is how a user acts in the current conversation.

Sep 7, 22 4:03 pm  · 
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thisisnotmyname

What is it about MOB clients you didn't like?

Sep 7, 22 4:50 pm  · 
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DickCheney

Medical projects are never the most exciting and take a ton of brain power. From my experience they are a very stable typology monetarily, albeit not the most sexy.

Sep 7, 22 5:16 pm  · 
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thisisnotmyname

What I don’t like about most small to medium MOB clients is that they comprised of a board of directors.  Not all boards are bad – some are very knowledgeable and understand what it takes to successfully run an MOB.

A subpar board on the other hand . . .

The board’s decision-making process is extremely linear and based only on the accounting of the MOB.  As such board members have a hard time understanding things like functionality, flow, privacy, flexibility, comfort, and the idea of long-term costs. Board members rarely want to put the patient first and it's a constant fight to get them to do so.  All clients want things cheaper and faster, but MOB board members take this a absurd extreme.   This is exacerbated by the boards inability to make decisions in timely fashion. 

In my experience most MOB boards are in the subpar category.  The bad qualities of these boards are increased when they represent a provider that is trying to expand.   

I could care less about MOB's not being considered the most exciting or sexy.  I've had good luck creating attractive and functional MOB's that put the patients first.  It's very satisfying however the stress involved in having to constantly convince a group of subpar board members is overwhelming and a bit like herding cats that have MBA's and aren't used to be told that they're incorrect.  

Sep 7, 22 5:39 pm  · 
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