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Is your Significant other an Architect / Design related biz?

Distant Unicorn

In This Thread: Licensed professionals, who hate when unlicensed professionals practicing their trade, giving unlicensed advice that should be given by licensed professionals to other licensed professionals.

Next on Oprah, hypocrisy and its many masks.

Aug 20, 09 12:41 pm  · 
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newport2009

how does relationship advice have anything to do with licensure? unless u are one of those who need a nod from a licensed shrink every time u want to make a decision? weird.

Aug 20, 09 12:48 pm  · 
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Distant Unicorn

how does building a shed have anything to do with licensure? unless u are one of those who need a nod from architect time u want to make a box in your backyard? weird.

Aug 20, 09 12:51 pm  · 
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newport2009

yeah but this is a relationshiop advice thread so i don't see why the point of licensure came up unless i missed a post? wah.

Aug 20, 09 1:10 pm  · 
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WK I'm on it!!

Aug 20, 09 1:12 pm  · 
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Distant Unicorn

Relationship advice is a form of counseling that should only be given by LPCs (Licensed Professional Counselors) who have passed the NCMHCE (National Certified Mental Health Counselor Examination).

Aug 20, 09 2:11 pm  · 
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Distant Unicorn

I'm just pointing out the irony that is this thread.

Aug 20, 09 2:12 pm  · 
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WonderK

Since when is relationship advice only supposed to be given by "licensed professionals"?!? Apparently you've never been a 15-year-old girl! Or a 25-year-old young woman with best girl friends, for that matter!

Aug 20, 09 3:34 pm  · 
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bowling_ball

Architects have somehow managed to royally screw up the built environment over the past couple hundred years, so I'm not sure I agree with you about LPCs, Orochi. People did (and do) just fine without licensed architects, and I'm sure 99.999% of us would do fine without professional psychiatrists if we knew we had a good support system (ie friends and family listening to us).

Aug 20, 09 4:09 pm  · 
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archMONSTER

newport, she isnt going to be a M.D. or any type of doctor for that matter. She is going to be in the medical / health field. Just not an M.D.


Wow this post turned comical!

Aug 20, 09 9:42 pm  · 
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newport2009

ah, sorry for my presumption. anyway, still, just go for it, life's too short to ruin something beautiful by over thinking!

Aug 20, 09 10:00 pm  · 
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aspect

Orochi made a good point... anything deals with public safty and health needs a license...

dumping ur ex may affect ur safty

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being dumped by ur ex affect ur health

:)

Aug 21, 09 12:36 am  · 
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newport2009

um, imho, this only further proves that architects take themselves waaaay too seriously for no reason other than the semi-"elitist" mentality that they're in a world so few can truly understand. i just don't buy it in the biggest sense of the overarching importance in the professional ranking. it's an insecure way of looking at your profession in context of the rest of the world imho. and i believe it's time for all architects to get their arses outta the sand and look around to see the rest of the world and see how you are connected to the rest of the world, vice versa. and not only intermingling yourself as an architect/designer will free you, inspire you/your work, and help you understand your position in the middle of everything that really is interconnected in the end.........things will just start clicking once you start looking for the balance that is within you and the rest of the world, IMHO.

Aug 21, 09 12:55 am  · 
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newport2009

i meant...down to your love life that happens to be the most intimate and subjective of all....so to conclude this thread on my end...i really don't know why u even have so much doubt in the first place. just enjoy your moments in the most humane way, not as an architect, just simply as a human being first and foremost...then see how your stuff and her stuff intermingles. good luck.

Aug 21, 09 1:04 am  · 
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chatter of clouds

'least you both can role play doctor and patient convincingly.

Aug 21, 09 5:13 am  · 
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finally looked at this thread and nearly fell off chair when i read your post WK. ducking fuckwits is a major problem. gotta say there are lots of brilliant cool guys here in tokyo. most of my friends are married by now but if you came 2 years ago i think it woulda been heaven for ya. smart expats doing academicky things somehow tend not to be fuckwitty at all. quite the opposite really. maybe you are in the wrong country.

my wife teaches toddlers to be geniuses (that is her actual job description and what she is paid for). she cares not a wee whit for architecture and that is just fine. it is fantastic that she is not obsessive about buildings. makes life normal in our house. helps that she is socially genius too - great parties and lots of fun for everyone especially the kids. life could not be better.

Aug 21, 09 6:27 am  · 
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snook_dude

mrs b is an architect....studied in Brazil,,,me studied at UoA and the school of hard knocks. We have been together for yIkes....10 years.
We do it 24/7... and once and a while we slip away for a long weekend or a trip to Brazil. I love my little Popcorn....(it does sound better in Protugese.) It is funny when we do have differences about design cause the client can usually pick up on it right away. The toughest thing in our relationship if Billing Clients. I'm the one who pulls the trigger but not soon enough for her. Then I hear about it until I get the Job done, and the client pays. We then celebrate! We also try to celebrate when we have a new Project....it makes everything go better.

Aug 21, 09 6:34 pm  · 
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odee

my gf of a LONG time (too long to actually count) is a designer and we often talk of one day starting our own multi-disciplinary firm (think Eames!), that is of course if I could ever find an entry level job in this economy.

Aug 21, 09 7:08 pm  · 
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archroma

I am still a student, but I married a firefighter. He doesn't get my obsession at all, but I am okay with that. I think its good to have my own interests outside of our relationship. We have plenty of other things we share: lots of movies, music, sushi, matching neo-pessimistic views of the world. It might be nice if he were in a building or design related profession. But since he's not we don't have to worry about me being right about EVERYTHING. ;-)

Aug 21, 09 8:58 pm  · 
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dsc_arch

archroma,

give him a copy of nfpa 101 and you are there.

We know a lot of fire fighters who inspect buildings as well as review drawings. they are into buildings.

In our area that is the path to fire chief!

Aug 21, 09 9:18 pm  · 
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passerby1ce

I personally would love to go out and marry a doctor. I think that's the perfect professional combination for a couple. In my head anyways.

Aug 21, 09 10:36 pm  · 
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archMONSTER

"um, imho, this only further proves that architects take themselves waaaay too seriously for no reason other than the semi-"elitist" mentality that they're in a world so few can truly understand. i just don't buy it in the biggest sense of the overarching importance in the professional ranking. it's an insecure way of looking at your profession in context of the rest of the world imho. and i believe it's time for all architects to get their arses outta the sand and look around to see the rest of the world and see how you are connected to the rest of the world, vice versa. and not only intermingling yourself as an architect/designer will free you, inspire you/your work, and help you understand your position in the middle of everything that really is interconnected in the end.........things will just start clicking once you start looking for the balance that is within you and the rest of the world, IMHO "

Dead on Newport! Thank you for that. I was never the one that would see myself as overly serious about this profession. Don't get me wrong... I love it, its a passion of mine, but lately its been controling me. Presure from school has been making me into this soul-less individual that can't see past the architectural building... guess thats a whole 'nother story another time.

Thanks Newport for making me feel somewhat normal again!

Aug 26, 09 11:49 pm  · 
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archMONSTER

"um, imho, this only further proves that architects take themselves waaaay too seriously for no reason other than the semi-"elitist" mentality that they're in a world so few can truly understand. i just don't buy it in the biggest sense of the overarching importance in the professional ranking. it's an insecure way of looking at your profession in context of the rest of the world imho. and i believe it's time for all architects to get their arses outta the sand and look around to see the rest of the world and see how you are connected to the rest of the world, vice versa. and not only intermingling yourself as an architect/designer will free you, inspire you/your work, and help you understand your position in the middle of everything that really is interconnected in the end.........things will just start clicking once you start looking for the balance that is within you and the rest of the world, IMHO "

Dead on Newport! Thank you for that. I was never the one that would see myself as overly serious about this profession. Don't get me wrong... I love it, its a passion of mine, but lately its been controling me. Presure from school has been making me into this soul-less individual that can't see past the architectural building... guess thats a whole 'nother story another time.

Thanks Newport for making me feel somewhat normal again!

Aug 26, 09 11:49 pm  · 
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mauOne™

I love Archinect, I would like that my significant other be an Archinect@r !

Aug 27, 09 8:38 am  · 
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My fiance is a graphic designer and I am finishing up grad arch school. So we are not in the exact same fields but we are able to bounce ideas off each other because we trust each other.

I did not intentionally go out and "date" someone in the design field. But I think in my case it did make us somewhat compatible. We both stay up all night together, so we do understand each other in that way.

Aug 27, 09 8:14 pm  · 
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newport2009

so i guess things are progressing well stranger??? not to be nosy! yeah, i'll be right there with you, i start my m.arch this monday - BIG yikes. and since my arch. journey is right around the corner, i don't know, i've been thinking about being an architect more than ever and your post today as to why i rambled so much in the first place and want to a bit more.....

hm, maybe it's cus i feel the times are different? our world is getting smaller with more than enough architect this world can handle sometimes (especially in the big cities like ny) and in many ways, we're just not that special anymore. i'm sorry, we really aren't as we used to be so we should just stop acting like it. not saying we all do but there still are a lot of posers out there.....or people who feel that they have to be in their bubble, like an architect code and plan every aspect of their lives around the field. and i guess i've felt frustrated seeing unnecessary snobbishness and elitism working in arch. firms in the past 7 yrs. that i just felt was ill fitting in today's climate. ha! and thanks to archinect, i can just diffuse it a bit......

i think we were once revered as "gods" cause there truly were so few and they were true artisans, total designers, not just architects so i think back then, only a few could truly understand such a specialized and esoteric field like arch. in its full scope but yeah, we don't have to act so distinguished and isolate ourselves any more than in the past because people are a lot more sophisticated w/their comprehension and curiosity for our field, with just about anyone having an architect friend or 2, tho still clueless ones breathe among us - sure. i just don't think that's the only way to become better architects and feel the way some still try to dress so differently that screams out "architect" for image sake, without that being your true style/identity for example, that type of wanting to look so distinguished such as a pope, making such a statement for posing sake really equals conspicuous consumption that was so the 90's. so yeah, i think that it's just a different time we're living in and we should uh, get jiggy with it and chill with that. tho i'm totally going off tangent now, sorry, i'm just really anxious and excited for school and have many opinions about this...

and i should really stop rambling on before i annoy more archinectors than i already have ;) good luck on your studies!!!!!

Aug 28, 09 12:02 am  · 
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