not to horn in on vado retro's lyrical gig, but andy partridge says it best:
i've been praying all the week through
at home, at work and on the bus
i've been praying i can keep you
and to earn enough for us
i can take humiliation
and hurtful comments from the boss
i'm just praying by the weekend
i can earn enough for us
found a house that won't repair itself
with its windows cracking
and a roof held together with holes
just because were at the bottom of the ladder
we shouldn't be sadder
than others like us
who have goals for the betterment of life
glad that you want to be my wife, but honest
i've been praying all the week through
at home at work and on the bus
i've been praying I can keep you
and to earn enough for us
so you're saying that were going to be three
now, a father's what i'll be
don't get me wrong, i'm so proud
but the belt's already tight
i'll get another job at night, but honest
i can take humiliation
and hurtful comments from the boss
i'm just praying by the weekend
i can earn enough for us
damn vado i can't access your link from work (farging proxy server)!
not sure if you're an xtc fan or not, but someone on youtube has posted xtc's last live performance (featuring our boy andy partridge's breakdown that led to his rumored paralyzing stagefright). you can find it without much diggin'. interesting stuff.
Although we make shit wages for professionals, we still make a hell of a lot more than a good chuck of society. And that good chunck of society has kids, and works two jobs, and cooks dinner...stop fucking whining. If you want kids you make it work. If you want a marriage, you make it work. suck it up baby - life is hard.
Just finished undergrad. been dating the same girl since before college (6 years now) She's an artist/photographer...most amazng woman in the world... hates talking about architecture...would have it no other way. It keeps the work at work and play at home... hard part is balancing the hours... the question you have to ask yourself is are living for your work or are your working so you can live... I know my answer and makes all the difference
I agree rococco, I just graduated with my undergrad in architecture in May 06 and I'm gettin married in Nov. 06. My girl works in Investor Relations(whatever that means still not sure) up on park avenue and I work in a small firm in tribeca. Talk is never about work, we have to much fun running around New York City. Yes we both don't make that much dough but we plan on having kids. You can't go through life sayin you can't do it if you want it it has to work. So call us crazy but its goin to work! You need to date someone outside of architecture its the only way to keep your sanity!
i have to second urbanspec's comment except to say, you may not want to marry an architect
but yeah, life is hard, relationships are hard, and while i think we're all happier now that divorce is legal and socially acceptable...back when you HAD to make the marriage work, people tended TO make the marriage work
what's funny is that people have gotten this idealized version of marriage, where it's SO HARD to achieve that perfect bond and raise perfect kids...when it's not true.
it's impossible. so why even try? why not just have a good one?
i've read that statistically, in the u.s., your best chances of meeting a spouse or boyfriend, girlfriend is at work.
so if the folks at work are not good enough, change work somehow.
My architect wife and I have been adding architecture related side trips into all of our vacations.
On our honeymoon we went to Mexico City and the pyramids of the sun and moon.
Now that we have kids (5 and 2.5) they have grown used to looking at buildings as entertainment. One year we went to Savannah, GA and looked at the rail road house under restoration. Our son had a great time looking at the functional turn table and lots of big trains.
Recently we went to Cape Cod and the older one really loved the new wildlife preserve that is going for leed certification. It is amazing how fascinated a 5 year old is about a composting toilet!
architecture is a job.... that's that....sure we might have a passion for it but seriously....... it's only a job........ do your hours and if you work tooo much then find a place where u can work less.........
we all like to design/etc.... but when architecture is your life and not part of your life, then there is something wrong......
Being single, I'm finding this thread depressing. Especially as i'm not tall and that seems to be a universal base-point criteria for girls everywhere (in print: I haven't experienced its effects in 'real' life) but depressing nonetheless.
I'm passionate about architecture but I don't work long hours and my day job isn't the kind of job I'd get married to (like, NO WAY). But I suppose my other intellectual pursuits mean that I'm happy with my own company most of the time and it's well-nigh impossible finding girls / women who like discussing things intellectually. Which is a sweeping statement based on little experience... or maybe quite a lot of experience, come to think of it.
Maybe I ought to switch to making the first move after a quarter century of the reverse...
I have four employees who are intern architects that are married with kids, wives don't work, they seem to do just fine. No one puts in more than 1 hour of overtime a weeks, so what are you complaining about? My neighbor who has a husband who is a surgeon sees him like 2 hours a week, and thats when he's sleeping. I married an architect, we do fine, sending two kids to college, took them to Europe this summer to see architecture. More fun than making them calculate insurance actuarial tables. It is no harder to be married as an architect than any other profession. It is also no harder to make a great living. Stop looking for excuses and figure out what YOU are doing wrong.
marriage
not to horn in on vado retro's lyrical gig, but andy partridge says it best:
i've been praying all the week through
at home, at work and on the bus
i've been praying i can keep you
and to earn enough for us
i can take humiliation
and hurtful comments from the boss
i'm just praying by the weekend
i can earn enough for us
found a house that won't repair itself
with its windows cracking
and a roof held together with holes
just because were at the bottom of the ladder
we shouldn't be sadder
than others like us
who have goals for the betterment of life
glad that you want to be my wife, but honest
i've been praying all the week through
at home at work and on the bus
i've been praying I can keep you
and to earn enough for us
so you're saying that were going to be three
now, a father's what i'll be
don't get me wrong, i'm so proud
but the belt's already tight
i'll get another job at night, but honest
i can take humiliation
and hurtful comments from the boss
i'm just praying by the weekend
i can earn enough for us
yeah the partridge family were good but they didnt have the wedding bell blues
damn vado i can't access your link from work (farging proxy server)!
not sure if you're an xtc fan or not, but someone on youtube has posted xtc's last live performance (featuring our boy andy partridge's breakdown that led to his rumored paralyzing stagefright). you can find it without much diggin'. interesting stuff.
he had too many senses working overtime apparently...
Although we make shit wages for professionals, we still make a hell of a lot more than a good chuck of society. And that good chunck of society has kids, and works two jobs, and cooks dinner...stop fucking whining. If you want kids you make it work. If you want a marriage, you make it work. suck it up baby - life is hard.
Marry an architect.
very punny vado. i like your style.
1,2,3,4,5...
Just finished undergrad. been dating the same girl since before college (6 years now) She's an artist/photographer...most amazng woman in the world... hates talking about architecture...would have it no other way. It keeps the work at work and play at home... hard part is balancing the hours... the question you have to ask yourself is are living for your work or are your working so you can live... I know my answer and makes all the difference
Haven't dated a non-architecture person in 5 years.
Maybe its because I don't know any good pick-up lines for NON-architecture girls.
I agree rococco, I just graduated with my undergrad in architecture in May 06 and I'm gettin married in Nov. 06. My girl works in Investor Relations(whatever that means still not sure) up on park avenue and I work in a small firm in tribeca. Talk is never about work, we have to much fun running around New York City. Yes we both don't make that much dough but we plan on having kids. You can't go through life sayin you can't do it if you want it it has to work. So call us crazy but its goin to work! You need to date someone outside of architecture its the only way to keep your sanity!
Worst idea ever!
i have to second urbanspec's comment except to say, you may not want to marry an architect
but yeah, life is hard, relationships are hard, and while i think we're all happier now that divorce is legal and socially acceptable...back when you HAD to make the marriage work, people tended TO make the marriage work
what's funny is that people have gotten this idealized version of marriage, where it's SO HARD to achieve that perfect bond and raise perfect kids...when it's not true.
it's impossible. so why even try? why not just have a good one?
whats the difference between an architect and a pizza?
a pizza can feed a family of four
lolololol floatingtooth
i've read that statistically, in the u.s., your best chances of meeting a spouse or boyfriend, girlfriend is at work.
so if the folks at work are not good enough, change work somehow.
re - hayden
http://www.google.com/search?q=Hayden+Christensen+architecture
only half joking?
h1, ha ha ha. but don't you need to be declared bipolar by a psychiatrist before the irs will accept that?
stephanie:
can you register for yourself?
again, maybe a psychiatrist is needed :-)
kids naturally freak about fresh 3d spaces. so if your arch-vacations are good, the kids should love them.
Arch vacations…
My architect wife and I have been adding architecture related side trips into all of our vacations.
On our honeymoon we went to Mexico City and the pyramids of the sun and moon.
Now that we have kids (5 and 2.5) they have grown used to looking at buildings as entertainment. One year we went to Savannah, GA and looked at the rail road house under restoration. Our son had a great time looking at the functional turn table and lots of big trains.
Recently we went to Cape Cod and the older one really loved the new wildlife preserve that is going for leed certification. It is amazing how fascinated a 5 year old is about a composting toilet!
architecture is a job.... that's that....sure we might have a passion for it but seriously....... it's only a job........ do your hours and if you work tooo much then find a place where u can work less.........
we all like to design/etc.... but when architecture is your life and not part of your life, then there is something wrong......
Togetherness:
http://www.magidson.com/eisenfeld/togetherness52x40.html
Being single, I'm finding this thread depressing. Especially as i'm not tall and that seems to be a universal base-point criteria for girls everywhere (in print: I haven't experienced its effects in 'real' life) but depressing nonetheless.
I'm passionate about architecture but I don't work long hours and my day job isn't the kind of job I'd get married to (like, NO WAY). But I suppose my other intellectual pursuits mean that I'm happy with my own company most of the time and it's well-nigh impossible finding girls / women who like discussing things intellectually. Which is a sweeping statement based on little experience... or maybe quite a lot of experience, come to think of it.
Maybe I ought to switch to making the first move after a quarter century of the reverse...
I have four employees who are intern architects that are married with kids, wives don't work, they seem to do just fine. No one puts in more than 1 hour of overtime a weeks, so what are you complaining about? My neighbor who has a husband who is a surgeon sees him like 2 hours a week, and thats when he's sleeping. I married an architect, we do fine, sending two kids to college, took them to Europe this summer to see architecture. More fun than making them calculate insurance actuarial tables. It is no harder to be married as an architect than any other profession. It is also no harder to make a great living. Stop looking for excuses and figure out what YOU are doing wrong.
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